What I Want To Teach My Daughters

July 27, 2013

Girl, Kids, Nerd, WIT

  1. Don’t let your gender, your race, or your differences define you.
    You are a person. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Doing so can narrow your perception of possible.You do not need rescued.
  2. Chivalry is respect. Appreciate it.
    When a guy offers his chair to you or gets the door for you or offers to help when you’re carrying something heavy, say thank you (or no thank you, in the case of something heavy you’re able to carry). Similarly, if you see a guy struggling with heavy boxes, offer your help. You’re strong & you are able. It’s the human thing to do.
  3. Courtesy is Mandatory.
    “No one is more insufferable than he who lacks basic courtesy.” -Bryant McGill
  4. Law of Two Feet
    “If at any time you find yourself in any situation where you are neither learning nor contributing, use your two feet, go someplace else.” –Harrison Owen
  5. You can demand courtesy but you have to earn respect.” -Lawrence Goldstone
    If you ever overhear something that offends you, address them directly or walk away. Do not, under any circumstances, tie it to someone publicly, before getting their approval.
  6. No one can offend you unless you let them. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. You Are Not Helpless. Don’t act like a victim*.
  7. Stereotyping isn’t the enemy, it’s what we do with it.
    BUT the most interesting part of each person is what you learn past your initial brain-boxing.
  8. Don’t you dare, ever belittle someone because they don’t know something. Teach them. Do everything you can to empower them. If they don’t try, walk away. If that gap is too wide, suggest a path. Whether they choose to explore it is out of your control.
  9. Let your differences inspire others. Rock every part of your core.
    “Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, simply surrounded by a**holes.” -William Gibson
  10. Do What You Love
    “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” -Howard Thurman


*If you haven’t heard of the “Dreaded Drama Triangle” , it’s from The Power of TED (The Empowerment Dynamic):

Special thanks to Paul Drew for telling me about this great book.

4 Comments on “What I Want To Teach My Daughters”

  1. Phillip Haydon (@philliphaydon) Says:

    I disagree with 5. People who get offended deserve to get offended. Lifes too short to get offended.


    • TruncatedCoDr Says:

      Yes, that is why I followed it with #6, but communication is important, too. People say things not KNOWING they might have hurt someone’s feelings. I just want my daughters not to be afraid to communicate, to gain a better understanding of others.


  2. hildawg Says:

    My favourite is number 8! People who belittle others for not knowing something really grinds my gears!


  3. gvaughn Says:

    Good stuff! I especially like #2. I have personally struggled with women who assumed me a chauvinist because I held the door for them. News flash: I’d have held the door if you were a man.


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